Being a mom is physically exhausting. Running, driving, chasing, cleaning, caring – it takes a lot of energy! Beyond the physical stamina, I think the emotional and mental exhaustion is the worst.
I was laying in bed the other night and something occurred to me. (As all amazing, life changing thoughts normally do). Never before in my life have I had to make half as many critical decision as I do as a mother. One wrong decision and bam – your child is an unhealthy, lazy, terrible person. And it is all your fault!
At least, that is how it feels.
Here are just a few of the bazillion decisions I make as a mother, and this is just in one day!
- When to wake up
- When to wake up the children (if they are still sleeping)
- What the children will wear
- Or whether to allow them to pick it out themselves
- What I will wear
- How to groom my children
- How to react to complaints and “I don’t want to”s.
- What to feed them for breakfast
- What to pack my children for lunch
- When to leave the house for school
- How to get them all in the van on time without losing my mind
- Which order to drop the children off to school in
- Whether to do errands immediately after school drop off or later
- When to exercise
- How to exercise
- What to eat during the day
- What to prepare for dinner
- How to work the budget
- Which house cleaning chores to do while the children are in school
- How much time to spend on social media & blogging
- Which volunteer activities to do while my children are in school
- In which order to pick up my kids from school
- How to best handle the fights in the car
- What to feed my kids for after school snack
- How to enforce and help with homework completion
- How to encourage/enforce my children to eat healthy at dinner
- Which chores to do at night
- How to encourage my kids to help with chores and pick up their own stuff
- How much screen time to allow my children after school
- How to deal with complaints and fights when the screen time is over
- When to begin bedtime routine
- How to handle bedtime routine
- How to react to bedtime fights
- Discerning between legit complaints and disobedience
- Deciding between housework, social media, and TV time once the kids are asleep
- How to plan the next day’s schedule.
- How to take care of myself and not allow what others think to affect my parenting.
- How to make sure my love for my children and my husband is communicated to them.
I could go way more into detail with this. Each of these 38 decisions comes with at least 5 more detailed ones. Then you have the after school activities and what to pack for snacks, whether it is ok to eat out. But of all the thoughts and prioritizing and stress I feel every day, #37 is the proverbial straw on the camel’s back. If I allow the perceptions of others to infiltrate my mind it shakes my entire core. It ruins my parenting and self-worth. No one knows what it is like to be me more than I do. I adore my children and every decision I make has one motive behind it – How will this affect my family? Even taking care of myself. If I don’t take care of myself, how will that affect my kids? Hint: it won’t be good.
Honestly, this is why I am so tired. This is why when people ask me how I’m doing, I say “I’m just exhausted, but good.” My mind won’t stop. It can’t just experience peace. Non-stop critical decisions – one after the next. With the weight of the realization that If I choose wrong, I will ruin their lives.
And now, I have to end this post, because my daughter wants to build LEGOs with me and I decided time with her is more important than creating the perfect ending to write. But I would love to hear what decisions you make every day.