Moms, we walk a fine line. We want to demonstrate self-love to our children. We know our children are beautiful and we want them to know it too.
But what if we want to make superficial changes to our bodies? What kind of message does that send to our kids?
Love the Body You Have
No matter where you live, getting work done – we should just love the body we have. Except our bodies change so much after we have children and go through so much in the process of aging.
But kids do not understand this. They only see the message “mom got work done, she wasn’t happy with her body. What is wrong with my body? Should I get work done too?”
It is those doubts, those thoughts of self-criticism that can be so harmful to adolescents.
Wait to Get the Work
I think, personally, waiting until the children are grown to get any kind of work done might be the best idea. Then they are old enough to relate to you on a more mature level.
Do not think I am criticizing anyone that does any of this though! It’s your decision, your happiness, and you know your kids best. Not every child thinks the same way.
Make Your Happy
Exercising produces endorphins, so doing it to combat feelings of lethargy and feeling “blah” can also lead to feeling better about your body. That is what I try to do – but haven’t lately. I always feel so much better when I work out, even if I don’t really lose the weight.
What makes you happy? How much does physical appearance actually matter when it comes to overall self-worth?