I am going to shout it to the world: I suck at homemaking right now. You heard me. I cook with processed foods. My kids eat Lunchables and McDonald’s chicken nuggets! My floor is mopped maybe twice a month. My laundry sits in baskets, waiting to be put away. Dinner time consists of my kids eating at the table while I *gasp* work on my blog a few feet away.
Yes, right now, today in 2011, I suck as a wife and mom. My husband wears wrinkled shirts to work. Unless he irons them himself, which he sometimes does.
You know what twitter and blogs are good for? Two things: commiserating and finding other imperfect mamas to bond with, and finding lots of “perfect” mamas to compare yourself to and feel like crap.
Don’t get me wrong – I am not saying that I am going to sit and wallow in my bad meals and dirty floors. I strive every single to day to improve. At one point I bought a food processor and Sneaky Chef cookbook. I pureed so many veggies and hid them in Lizzie’s food. Then the processor broke, and I never bought another one.
Things didn’t really improve much either, because after that, I was pregnant with Lucy and my entire world shifted.
Dude, 3 kids 4 years old and under is a lot of dependency! Only one of them can (barely) wipe her own butt!
Can you do it all? Be honest. Is your house spot-free,your husband’s shirts wrinkle free (because you ironed them) your kids eating all organic-whole foods and you are adding to the household income?
If you answered yes to the above questions, share you secrets!
But I am adjusting, constantly tweaking how I do things, so my children and husband benefit the most. I will never be perfect – forget it! My sanity is much more important than unattainable perfection. But I can get pretty stinking close.
Here are the areas I stink at and what I am doing to work at them:
Food: I know absolutely nothing about nutrition and food packaging. I know the basics: cook as close to “fresh grown” as you can. I try, but sometimes a can of cream of chicken soup thrown on chicken and rice is a super yummy meal the kids love! And you can’t beat the ease of a box of mac and cheese. But I am always researching, always trying. I asked on my facebook wall for some suggestions of how to learn more about healthy eating and can’t wait to give those sites a try – my fans are the best!
Time: My old routines were thrown out the window when Lucy was born, and then again now that Lizzie is in preschool. I need to create a loose routine that gives me quality time with the kids – preferably while I help them to help me clean.
Cleaning: There is no way around this. If I am going to work at home and be a good mother/wife, I have no time nor energy left to clean. The house is infinitely more organized with his help and I appreciate it more than I tell him.
Sleep: What? Moms actually sleep? Forget this, I need a Keurig.
As you can see, I’m in a state of change right now. I refuse to get too hard on myself for the lack of super healthy meals and the presence of dirty dishes always in the sink. I keep trying to find ways above all that. My first priority are the meals. Cause healthy eating is more important than folded underwear!
My question to you:
What are you favorite resources for learning more about healthy cooking for your family? Do you have a site you go to? Maybe a cookbook I should buy?